Good Grief

"They lived and laughed and loved and left."  James Joyce

My mother died just over 11 weeks ago. Some days it feels like 11 minutes ago, others it feels like 11 years ago.

Even though she's physically gone, my mom is still with me. She is very close. Nearby. I have never felt anyone's presence like I feel hers.

I can't see her or talk to her or hear her or touch her. But I feel her. I definitely feel her. She is with me.

And I draw great comfort in that.


'Death Is Nothing At All' by Henry Scott-Holland

Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.

Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.

All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!


(Photo credit:  Rosemary Shumka)